De-Escalation Language That Works

What's Inside

De-Escalation Language That Works

Ready-to-say phrases, calm visuals, and step-by-step guides that bring students back to learning -- without power struggles.

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20+ Ready-to-Use De-Escalation Phrases → PreK--5

Organized by grade band so you always have developmentally right-sized language at your fingertips.

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5-Step Calm-Down Process

Notice → Breathe → Choice → Validate → Re-Engage. A simple sequence you can rely on in any tough moment.

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Visual Script Charts

Kid-friendly visuals that help students follow the calm steps and self-regulate independently.

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"Angry After You Choose" Protocol

Step-by-step follow-through for resistance after choices -- keep it predictable and safe.

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Choice & Wait-Time Guidelines

Handle defiance with structure, not power struggles -- respect autonomy while maintaining momentum.

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Crisis Response Template

What to do, say, and document when safety is at risk -- clear roles and next steps.

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Teacher Reflection Pages

Quick self-check prompts to strengthen calm tone, connection, and consistency over time.

What's Included in
"De-Escalation Language That Works"

Everything you need to stay calm, connect fast, and de-escalate with confidence.

20+ De-Escalation Scripts by Grade Band

Ready-to-say phrases for PreK--5 that help you calm chaos and connect instantly when emotions rise.

$6 Value

5-Step Calm-Down Process

A clear, repeatable framework -- Notice → Breathe → Choice → Validate → Re-Engage -- that builds student self-control.

$4 Value

Visual Script Charts

Kid-friendly visuals that teach students how to self-regulate independently during big feelings.

$3 Value

"Angry After You Choose" Protocol

Step-by-step calm response guide for when a student resists or escalates after you give a choice.

$3 Value

Choice & Wait-Time Guidelines

Structure defiant or resistant behavior with calm consistency -- no power struggles, no guessing.

$2 Value

Crisis Response Template

What to do, say, and document during high-stress moments -- keep safety and calm first.

$3 Value

Teacher Reflection Pages

Simple prompts to strengthen your calm tone and reset after challenging days.

$3 Value

💚 Total Value: $24 -- Print & Use Tomorrow!

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The Calm Corner Kit: Everything You Need to Create a Peaceful Space That Works

Stop the "time-out hangout." Give students a step-by-step place to breathe • reset • rejoin -- with dignity and routine.

What You'll Get (Print & Use Tomorrow)

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Peace Palace Setup Guide & Checklist

Make it visible, safe, and purposeful -- not isolating. Environment, tools, and routine essentials laid out for you.
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Calm Menu Posters (Student-Friendly)

4-7-8 Breathing, 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding, mindful observation, sound escape, and doodle reset cards students can follow independently.
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"Ready to Return" Prompt Cards

Quick check-in → name the feeling → set an intention → plan the re-entry. Accountability without shame.
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Teacher Mini-Guides

Avoid the time-out trap, use neutral tone, and invite re-entry in 2--5 minutes. Age-appropriate tools for PreK--5.
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Self-Regulation Strategy Sheets

Breathing, movement breaks, and sensory tools -- taught, modeled, and practiced so calm becomes routine.

Teach skills, not punishments -- turn meltdowns into teachable moments with clear visuals and routines.

I am a Master teacher with 31 + years experience in the elementary regular education classroom with a special education background as well and I'm excited for you to use my Behavior Toolkit to get more peaceful days.

I am currently a teacher and I found myself struggling to just teach a lesson without behaviors interrupting.

These days, my days are filled with more compliant students and I figured out how to give choices that make a difference using the scripts that are in the Behavior Toolkit for Classroom and Home.

Now it's your turn! The Behavior Toolkit has everything you need to respond to disruptive behaviors by giving you ready-to-use scripts, visuals, and systems that create calm, connection, and consistency. .

You can look forward to:

Calm Environment
Confident Responses
Consistent Progress

I'm so excited to support you as you CALM THE CHAOS.

Frequently Asked Questions

What grades is this toolkit designed for?

The Behavior Toolkit Poster & Form Pack and Calm Corner "Peace Palace" Kit are designed for PreK--5 classrooms, but teachers in grades 6--8 have successfully adapted them too. Each printable uses clear visuals and positive, age-flexible language.

Do I need to buy the full Behavior Toolkit first?

No! These packs stand on their own. They're designed to work independently or alongside your De-Escalation Language That Works scripts to create a full calm-response system.

Is this digital or printed?

This is a digital download. You'll get instant access to high-resolution PDF files that you can print as many times as you need for your own classroom.

Can I use it for home or counseling sessions?

Yes! Many parents, counselors, and behavior interventionists use these visuals and forms for home learning or therapy sessions. The calm, connection-based approach works anywhere kids need emotional regulation support.

How does this help with behavior problems?

Instead of reacting to behavior, these tools teach students how to self-regulate. Visuals, routines, and reflection sheets replace "time-outs" with calm-down skills that reduce disruptions and build emotional safety.

How soon can I use it?

Immediately! Once you complete your purchase, you'll receive a download link to your PDF. Print and start using tomorrow--no prep required.

Do I need special materials?

Nope! Just print, laminate (optional), and hang. All materials are designed for quick setup using a color printer, cardstock, or regular paper.

Is this resource trauma-informed?

Yes. Every script and visual is written through a trauma-informed, connection-first lens--focused on safety, predictability, and emotional regulation rather than punishment.

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